Whoops. Let me try that again.
Nope, one more time:
See, it's sticky.
When a friend of 18 years told us they couldn’t vote against Prop 8 because of their strong religious convictions, despite their love for us and their respect for our being a couple, it made me realize that Prop 8 had become a referendum on whether you were voting against Jesus and God himself by changing the “traditional” definition of marriage.
Never mind that in the Old and New Testament’s definition of marriage, romantic love didn’t play a role at all, and women were pretty much property.
Somehow, allowing Gays to marry would devalue the legitimacy of THEIR marriages. The whole idea of the separation of church and state, that the vote was about CIVIL marriages, was completely ignored. Marriage – the religious tied up with the civil – was sacred, and we Gays were trespassing.
Yet slavery was okay in the Bible, and we’ve decided it’s not okay in our world today.
Divorce was NOT okay in the Bible, and still 34% of born again Christians have been divorced.
Clearly, even evangelicals are able to distinguish between civil and religious laws, which leads us to this
New Years Resolution: We must define our struggle for Gay Rights as a Civil One.
Perhaps this could get our point across: If marriage was exclusively religious for EVERYONE, and the government changed EVERYONE'S "Marriage" to a "civil union," we could truly keep the civil and religious recognition of marriage separate (for gay AND STRAIGHT people!)
Perhaps if all those social conservatives who voted to change California's (and other states') constitutions to prevent Same-Gender marriage were faced with their own marriages being "down-graded" to civil unions, the whole "separate-but-equal" argument would fall on it's face.
Our country has no idea how to do "separate-but-equal."
Civil marriage for everyone.
Or no one.
And let everyone have Civil Unions.
Now there's a rallying cry!