Monday, June 11, 2012

As Apologies To The Gay Community Go, This One Works: Jason Alexander "Gets It"

As published on Outsports and GLAAD, Jason Alexander's recent TV appearance where he mocked Cricket for being a 'gay sport' was met with tweets that expressed hurt and offense. 

And instead of a laughing 'that's how the world is' and 'I'm sorry if I ever offended anyone' type of apology that we're seeing recently (Like Mitt Romney's disappointing comments when asked about an episode of high school bullying when he attacked a fellow student), Jason actually took this as a moment to reflect, re-consider, and learn.

Here's an excerpt from his apology:

I asked a few of my gay friends about it. And at first, even they couldn’t quite find the offense in the bit. But as we explored it, we began to realize what was implied under the humor. I was basing my use of the word “gay” on the silly generalization that real men don’t do gentile, refined things and that my portrayal of the cricket pitch was pointedly effeminate, thereby suggesting that effeminate and gay were synonymous.
But what we really got down to is quite serious. It is not that we can’t laugh at and with each other. It is not a question of oversensitivity. The problem is that today, as I write this, young men and women whose behaviors, choices or attitudes are not deemed “man enough” or “normal” are being subjected to all kinds of abuse from verbal to physical to societal. They are being demeaned and threatened because they don’t fit the group’s idea of what a “real man” or a “real woman” are supposed to look like, act like and feel like.

For these people, my building a joke upon the premise I did added to the pejorative stereotype that they are forced to deal with everyday. It is at the very heart of this whole ugly world of bullying that has been getting rightful and overdue attention in the media. And with my well-intentioned comedy bit, I played right into those hurtful assumptions and diminishments.

...So, I would like to say – I now get it. And to the extent that these jokes made anyone feel even more isolated or misunderstood or just plain hurt – please know that was not my intention, at all or ever. I hope we will someday live in a society where we are so accepting of each other that we can all laugh at jokes like these and know that there is no malice or diminishment intended.

But we are not there yet.

So, I can only apologize and I do. 

I'm glad Jason now gets it.  And I think it's fascinating how social media (like Twitter) can create more accountability for those in the media spotlight.  


1 comment:

ivanova said...

That's great. His apology seemed sincere and to be something he really thought deeply about.